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Friday, October 30, 2015

Never Be Complacent Because You Are Afraid

Hi :)

I know I need to get back on here and write another blog when my facebook posts start getting longer and longer...The proof is in the pudding, I guess I have been feeling inspired lately.

So usually, when I DO write on here, I come with a rampant mission of topics to discuss, but today I'm just going to go with the flow.  I know I have a whole lot of things I could talk about, we'll see where my brain takes me.


Usually what starts me is things I am learning in my own life, so we'll start there.  What is the biggest thing I am learning lately?

I am not going to get a damn thing in my life/job unless I not only ask for it, but demand it, remind the people I'm asking, keep showing how great I am at whatever I'm doing, and don't back down.  The things I want are NOT going to be handed to me.  They are going to be given to the person who is demanding harder than I am.

There isn't going to be a change in my life unless I make it.  Life ain't no Cinderella story.  If I want something different, I have to earn it.  It's very annoying, but I'm pretty sure it's like this for most people.

There's always going to be more people who disagree with me or just don't understand me than people who are going to be on my side.  But that doesn't mean I'm wrong.  In fact most of the time, when I do have a conversation with people, they're either very impressed with what I have to say, or they're belligerent and their counterpoints, are so stupid that they only encourage me.  And sometimes, I am just plain wrong.  But being wrong about a couple things doesn't make you wrong about everything.  I think people are afraid to speak out because they are afraid of being wrong.  I love being wrong because it teaches me new things--I want to get my words as far out as possible because often, I am very wise and I think I can help people--and when I am wrong, I'm helping myself by learning.  I don't claim to know it all by speaking out about things that I have a solid logical argument behind.  I do claim to be proud of my own opinions, and I think that's important as long as you are using logic and self-improvement as your motivation, and not selfish reasons.

My life is just always going to be hard.  It's never been easy, it never will be easy.  All I can do now is laugh and realize that it is what I make of it.  I can act like everything's so horrible or really, I can appreciate the blessings I do have.  And sometimes, I can flamboyantly express the 'suckery' of it all, because every one of us is entitled to do that a few times a week.  But, at the same point, I'm not going to make a big deal out of small things by letting them take over my life.  Self-expression and depression are two different things.  Leading me to my next point--

People will always make a big deal out of little things.  Often, as a consequence, this blurs what the actual truth is for people who are just listening in on a conversation, and can cause the weak-minded to see things unclearly, which is why you must always try to listen to things objectively and form your own conclusions.  For instance, when I listen to someone vent about the behavior of someone else.  I can objectively watch this and, while, maybe I don't approve of the behavior of the person who is the subject of the discussion, in the same token, often this would never bother me enough to say anything about it.  To me it's like, you're behaving poorly and you need to improve--but unless you are TRULY hurting others, it's really not something for other people to get all fussy about.  And at my work, watching people get upset because things were left in places where they don't go--that's just hilarious.  It's amazing how things that don't matter can get blown out of proportion by the right people.  Or even when I'm bothered by something.  I've literally had to vocalize--"Hey--it bothers me, but it's not a big deal," because the person I was telling this to was acting like it was horrible that something small and trivial was bothering me (it was loud yelling at a football game, fyi).  When I told this person, who I love dearly that, they were simply like, "Oh," with an -oops- look on their face.  I just plugged my ears, grimaced, and moved on with my life.  Lol.

The title of my book will be, "Dear People, I May Be Annoyed But My Life Didn't End Because Someone Put Eggs In My Frittata."
Life is what it is and you get what you get, you're annoyed by what you're annoyed by, you don't like what you don't like, you go through what you go through and it's NOT a big deal.  Unless you make it that.

When I read over this, it's clear that the main focus of my life is not anything we're taught to focus on--it's self-improvement and the pure happiness that comes with that.  Push others and push yourself ONLY where it counts, and don't cause yourself anxiety by worrying about things that don't matter.  Speak your mind, learn, and you may be surprised by how right you are and how wrong other people are.  And if you are wrong, you may be surprised by how much you've learned and how glad you are for saying the wrong thing--because without doing that, you would never have been taught something new.  Live your life, say what you need to say.  Go where you need to go.  Never be complacent because you are afraid.

Friday, August 21, 2015

The Convincing and The Unconvincing. Addressing Stupidity.

First of all, I'm feeling a bit insecure about this post.  I hope what I am writing isn't just plain common sense and that it's actually teaching some people a thing or two.  I worry that I'm just writing a lot of stuff that people already have got figured out.  I hope I am helping at least a good chunk of whoever is reading!!

Hope I haven't made any promises of more regular future blogs on here because those have clearly been foiled.  My apologies if I have and I'll try not to do it in the future.  Regularity on these isn't a feasible thing for me at this current point in time.  Maybe now that I've said that, I'll post more?  That's usually how it goes with me.  I try to do this for enjoyment and I think lately I have been so focused on other things that adding blogs in as a requirement to prevent negligence would have just been stressful for me...so well, they got neglected.  I still am happy to have and write in these, so pardon the irregularity.  Hope it just adds to the charm?  Enough about that!!


TO THE ENTRY:

I've learned that often I over think common sense things.  I'll try to delve into something simple and come up with reasons why it is basic knowledge.  In actuality, these simple things are what they are, and are, in fact, nothing to argue against, but should be used as reasons for doing other things.  To come up with a reason for these things, would be hyper-analyzing and over-complicating matters.  I think when you get down to the nitty-gritty, sometimes something IS WHAT IT IS.  And saying absolutely anything else about it would be over-doing it and trying to add depth to something where depth does not exist.  Getting a little too creative/a little too close to being obsessive compulsive.  I've found often in my life that sometimes just saying a certain phrase with confidence is much better to sway people with than also giving them the reasons.  Because, now, giving reasons, you give people more room for objection.  If something is what it is, well, there's no debating it, is there?  But reasons make things more complicated, and easier to argue against, sometimes necessarily, and sometimes not.

You can totally abuse this, and I fear a bit at handing out the info I put in the paragraph above, but I think enough people have figured it out, regardless.  There are times when you NEED reasons and there are times when something is actually so simple that you do not.

For instance, if you are late for something.  You can simply say, I am late.  And that stands strong on it's own, albeit causing the person who you are telling you are late to wonder.  But once you come up with reasons for it--they become excuses.  Excuses the latter party can actually argue against.  We all know how this debate works, it's one of the debates that, no doubt, all of humankind experiences, quite a few times in their lifetime.  Whether the person you are late to seeing deserves an excuse is at your discretion.  I would hope you would know when it's rude to not give your excuse and when it isn't, but a lot of people unfortunately don't, and I'm not delving into that right now, plus I think it's a little different for everyone.  There's a balanced approach and an approach that comes from nonsense, whether that's egoism, or other strange, fantastical values.


There's a totally irresponsible way to clarify thoughts that I fear this entry could start the seed in, in irrational or young minds.  And that is, to just make a short statement on some radical belief, for instance, "Stars are alive." (pathetic example, but nevertheless) and then not have an answer because you act as if this statement is a given when it's absolutely not.  Do we believe stars are alive?  Is that a common thought?  The person who says it may act like EVERYBODY thinks stars are alive, but that doesn't mean they are!!!  You better give some good, viable reasons if you are going to make a statement like that and are expecting sane, balanced, mature people to believe you.  [I add the three adjectives sane, balanced, and mature because I think without three out of three, you could probably get a couple of people who only has two out of three to believe you without much trying.  And some people value that--usually people who are dumb and/or just plain nasty and manipulative...They'll get a large enough number of stupid people to believe them until the number is so high that the smart ones start questioning whether they are right or not, even though when you look at the facts, they are wrong.]

There are people who absolutely WILL make statements like "Stars are alive," and will completely expect you to side with them, with absolutely no reason, simply because, point-blank, these people are vain, egotistical, and idiotic.  They need you to appeal to their ego--it gives them a rush, and satisfies their need for acceptance and their insecure need to have followers.  Honestly, I don't really get it, and it's taking me a hellish time to figure out why the hell they do it, as I would be insulted by people who are only liking me because I sound powerful and not because I sound logical.  It's not a valid reason to be worshiped--and on the off-side, I don't want to be worshiped because I don't consider myself or anyone else, above anyone else.  I want to be respected, because I make sense and help my surroundings, myself, and the people around me become better.  Not because I make random, crazy statements, that may or may not be true, and have people follow them because I can because I am powerful.  That's not real trust.  That's not kind.  That's not true or valid.  It's not real validation.  It's sheer stupidity, to be quite honest.  I don't respect it or support it and I hope you won't either.

Statements along this line that make me cringe.

Ew, why are you wearing pink, that is so last season. (why?  did someone get hurt?)
I bought this because ___ bought it. (um, okay, what's the reason?)
Everyone loves _driving_. (Fill in the blank with anything, you still better give some reasons for such a broad statement).
People with brown hair like ____.
People with ____ are like ____.  (why?)
Married men/women are ___.
People without children are sad.
People with children are sad.
People who are single are ___.
People who hate my favorite type of music are horrible.
People who hate my favorite food are horrible.
People who ____ are emotionally unbalanced.

People who are __race or religion goes here_ are stupid. (these last two are doozies)
People who are __sexuality preference__ are bad people. (granted, a lot of "reasons" are given for this, they're just always illogical and hateful because they marginalize a large group of people whose intentions are all different, as they're all different human beings just like you and me and our sexualities do not define our moral compass...there's simply no relation...It's laughable to me that it's even still a debate, honestly, because it makes no sense.  Does the fact that I prefer wine over cheese make me a bad person too?  Or the fact that I prefer art over math?  Why is preferring boys over girls or girls over boys different?  You can't come up with a good argument and it's because there isn't one.)
You aren't supposed to do that. (why?  Parents especially--give your children reasons for why they shouldn't do things.  Let them share their opinions on why they disagree.  Don't just tell them not to because you are boss.  Teach them to be thinkers, for goodness sake.)
I do it this way because I've always done it this way. (that's never been a good reason for anything, especially in the work place where efficiency is valued and there's almost always a better way to do something.  Give some more explanation than that, please.)
I can never get better. (why not?  Logic can help you overcome depression and at least sadness, did you know that?  It can help you gain confidence because it causes you think of ways to come out of it on your own.  That's a whole other subject of discussion though.)
It will never get better. (why not?)
Oh look, even though the whole direction of the article clearly meant this, this one sentence here metaphorically meant something else, so I think that is what the writer really meant. (that's an example of using very poor evidence and poor analytical skills to make a point.)


These types of phrases, I think due to their confidence, have actually driven a lot of people to believe what's being said--but without good reasoning, these phrases are in absolutely no way valid and should not be trusted whatsoever.

So when is making a general statement and not giving any reason behind it acceptable?


When you share a preference:
I like the color blue.
I like writing.
I like boys.
I love to dance and sing.
I love people who are open-minded and true to themselves.
I enjoy math.

I prefer stained clothes over worrying about being perfect all the time.
I prefer spaghetti.


I think that's pretty much a given.  You can explain why you like something, but you don't have to, because the truth is, for whatever reason, you just enjoy it.  Am I right?

When you are declaring an action:
I did this.
I made this.
I will do this.
I won't do this.


It may or may not be true, but you don't have to give a reason because generally there's no argument against actions, as they are what they are.


When you do have to give a reason for what you are saying, is typically when you are expressing a belief.  Not something matter-of-fact.  But I think that a lot of people have a hard time separating what is matter-of-fact, between what is opinion.  And while it seems trivial, it's one of the most important skills you can have in life, not only to express yourself, but to protect yourself and the ones around you from being manipulated and used by people with poor intentions.  It also helps prevent you from over-explaining your preferences to people who are truly just being judgmental for no good reason (something I to this day struggle with, and I think it's what inspired this entry!).

I hope I've helped. :)  I don't think a redundant conclusion paragraph is necessary, so adios.  I'd love to answer questions on this.

Friday, March 13, 2015

Aging and My Three Reasons Why I Think It's Not A Big Deal...Self-Growth

(First of all, I didn't mean to make this post around certain loved ones of mine's birthdays.  That's sheer coincidence and I just realized this about 35 min into writing the entry.  This entry is not directed to anyone at all, and is meant to be helpful, fun, and insightful for anyone who stumbles upon it, just like every other entry I've ever written in the blog).

HI party people!!!  (I'm only saying that because it sounds so ridiculous here and my sense of humor is kind of to put things/say things in situations where they completely don't seem to go!  I hear several grasshoppers in the difference, some mouse-clicks over some X's, and I can almost feel the glaring scowls at the computer screen right now...but I don't care, you're going to have to deal with my unique sense of humor, because it's here to stay.)

I have had some time and with time... I GET TO THINK.  And with my thoughts...comes DANGEROUS proportions.

Well, blog entries. :)  Although I prefer to imbue (imbue!!!!  HAH!!  My favorite word...it sounds so funny!!!  I'm sure that was out of context, but I just felt the need to use the word imbue) this blog as a Professional Journal without all the boredom/scientific terms/repetitiveness in my head.

I hope I don't sound like one of those generic youtubers (of which I've been studying way too many for makeup-learning-purposes for my job [OKAY AND for personal enjoyment] etc, etc.  I hope they aren't rubbing off on me!  Why do so many always start and end their videos the same way?  And endorse things the same ways?  Is it just a comfort-zone thing?)

OMG.  *Slaps own wrist*  Time to get with the program. (Considers deleting all of the above.  But of course I won't because...I don't have to! :)  I love that about this thing)



Working sort of in the doorway (well maybe like 8 inches AWAY from the doorway...but still NEAR the doorway) of the beauty industry (as a cashier lol), I've been thinking a lot lately about aging.  And of course because it is MY brain, I had to turn innocent skin-care shopping into some sort of philosophical concept.  Anyway, we all know this already, but clearly...blah blah...there's a lot of dread having to do with age.

But I don't think there has to be! :)

First of all:

.5)  Gray hair is BEAUTIFUL.  I just found my first five or six gray hairs the other day.  They are all rather short, like they all decided to just grow in and decide to be gray a few weeks ago.  'Oh hello there Lyza, we are gray now, just decided a couple weeks ago, what's up!?'  But they're really sparkly and silvery, which I rather like.  And as long as we keep it healthy, I don't see how it's this horrible thing... if you keep your hair as soft and shiny as possible, what's wrong with gray hair?  Dye it if you want...but I don't think it's something to be ashamed of.  (Why did I put this as number one, like it's so important??  Please keep reading...hope I haven't lost anybody :P )

1)  Every year, you get a bit wiser, a bit more comfortable with yourself, and a bit more intolerant to bullshit.  Situations dealing with other people, time thinking to yourself, and thinking about how to handle these situations for the future simply does this to you naturally.  Time does this.  Time creates comfort in places that were new--life--and comfort allows you to be more open and honest about how you're really feeling.  Time also allows you to be comfortable expressing when you're uncomfortable.  You realize--I don't HAVE to feel bad about the opinions I am forming because someone told me I should.  I feel this way based on the knowledge I accrued over time, and it makes a lot of sense that I feel this way.  And because of that logic, you can feel proud expressing the thoughts you have, be they positive or negative.  Even if they are wrong every once in a while--you can feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and comfortable negotiating different opinions and accepting when you are wrong--that is true maturity--and I know plenty of people of all ages, old or young, who are terrible at doing that, but it's part of self-growth and being a good person.  I can't wait to see the Lyza I am ten years from now-because she sure is kicking it now.  I'm thinking I'm about to be a B.O.S.S.  Are you too?

I have heard that our mental stamina is at it's height in our mid-twenties...never to reach it's peak again.  However, mid-twenties is still very young.  It may be at it's height, but who is to say it is being put to good use?  Everyone is a little different, everyone matures differently and I don't think that our supposed "mental decline," has to be so dramatic.  We can NOT however, use our aging as an excuse to evade personal growth and still take true pride in who we are.  We all know people who do this.  If you want to truly be a decent person, you have to be compassionate for others, accept when you are wrong, and be open-minded to new ideas (last one being the hardest as our physical brains do lose plasticity, and therefore lose the ability to be open-minded, as we age...which is why I believe the terrible human traditions, are/have been so hard to break!).

My advice on your brain losing plasticity:  The BEST thing you can do for your mental health is to make it a practice to be open-minded--every single day of every year.  Put changing things up into practice--don't get too caught up in any routine and always allow yourself to hear opinions different from your own.  It probably won't eradicate the problem--but it could only help.

2)  Every year, you get better at knowing what you want, and how to say no to the things that you don't want.  It seems pretty base--knowing what you want, but it's actually kind of hard to really know everything about what you want, at any age, because there's so many choices to be made about so many different things, that we can't really know until we attempt to make these choices, learn more about what we are about to do, or have the wisdom to know that certain things we are being advised to do simply aren't logical for us.

 I had no idea I would hate college when I started it at age 18 or that it was corrupt for my elders at school to pressure us all to make such an impacting financial choice at such a young, impressionable age.  I had no idea that some of my strengths would include being good at reading people, understanding situations, and problem-solving.  I had no idea most of the people making others unhappy are unhappy themselves.  And no idea how to handle those people when push comes to shove.  I had no idea sometimes people stick to a terrible opinion just out of pride, and not because there's any real logic to it.  5 or 6 years ago it was harder for me to separate truth from opinion and to know who was selfish, who was well-meaning but wrong, and who was just using poor logic and needed an upgrade.  I had no idea about tons of things just 5 or 6 years ago.  But now that I know these things--I am standing at the tip of the iceberg on my life--on what I want, what will make me happy, and how I will and do handle situations when things inevitably get tough.  And my logic makes me 100% comfortable standing up for my beliefs when someone disagrees with me.  Beliefs should be formed through logical argument--not through others but through your own trains of thought and your own desire to be a good person.  We're NOT going to be good at everything and we're NOT going to get everything right because we're human and part of maturity is accepting that and being able to be fine with it.  ALSO--what makes you happy may NOT make someone else happy.  But, when you know what the HELL you want for your own life and your own happiness, and you have good foundations for your beliefs--even if you have to be tough on people at first because they want you to be a different way--you make yourself and you make the world a better, more accepting and balanced place for everyone.  That's just what the simple combination of logic, truth, and happiness does.  It starts a chain-reaction of positivity--as long as you act on it.  As time goes on, you do get better at putting yourself in a place where you are happier because of what you'll inevitably learn about yourself, and that's the wonderful thing about aging.

3.)  Life gets easier when you know what you want and know how to act on it.  I'm not saying you won't have as many or more problems than you do now, when you are older.  But, when you're not like a lost baby bird, it certainly does help.  Experience does bring about a certain calm on things that may have totally daunted you when you first started on them.  It's like any new job... For instance, doing the loud-speaker announcements at my job used to give me terrible nerves...now I am actually excited to do them.  You also learn how to pull yourself out of situations that are not right for you or good for you, which can be difficult all in it's own for some people, especially if you don't realize that they're not right.  Hard things become easy...every new thing becomes a new opportunity, to scare yourself, to challenge yourself, and to realize that was scary to you in the past is actually not a big deal at all.  So things in a way get easier--mainly because you know how to handle them better--that's the nature of experience.


ThankYOU. :)

That's all for now, I hope I helped, and I hate writing conclusion paragraphs.


EDIT:  I'm re-reading this and I know some of my wording comes off as really hilarious...almost like a parody and not like something to be taken seriously (example:  "...What the HELL you want..."  I didn't want to professionalize this entry... I just wanted it to come off how I would say it in person, and a lot of times my intention is to make people laugh in addition to teaching them something.  I have a very sarcastic sense of humor that I like to mix in on occasion when I feel I'm making a strong point, but read out loud I'm thinking this could sound kind of ridiculous.  Hopefully the entry helped you in some way and I'm editing this like crazy today (just the day it was posted...it'll be completely final tomorrow...this is how I always do this).  I need to stop submitting my entries so early.  Most of the time they come out fantastically, but today's was a little jumbled and I should have waited before submitting it!!!

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Follow Your OWN Values--Not The Ones You're Told To Follow

Why do you think you make the decisions you make?
Because you have to?  Because you like to?  Because you were told it was the right thing?  Or because you actually thought it out yourself, thought out the results the decision would get you, thought out how you would feel after you made the decision, and thought out why your decision actually made the most sense to you and in accordance with your own values.

I have found more than a few times in my life that what everyone else tells me is the right thing, feels like the wrong thing for myself and my own reasoning.  And usually when I take the time to explain why I chose to do an action, I'm given respect for it--even if who I am talking to would never do it themselves.

When I tell people my choices--I don't expect or desire any sort of conversion.  I don't expect them to change their moral compass to one similar to mine.  I don't even expect them to agree with me.  I only expect respect.  Respect for the fact that I take the time to logistically seek out what I want from my life and what makes me feel good about myself and what I am doing.  And respect that their values are different from mine--and we can still co-exist.

I'll always respect someone with different values than mine if their path of logic is sensible and good-hearted.  I especially like it when people aren't afraid to say that they feel differently than me, or anyone else for that matter, because it shows they have courage and believe in what they are doing.  It's boring and unrefreshing to see people who clearly disagree, stay silent because they are afraid.  What are they living for anyway?  Clearly not their values--which are the most VALUABLE thing.

When people disagree with each other, but they respectfully tell each other why they disagree with each other, everyone learns something, as long as the two people are sensible and logical.  We all can teach each other how to learn and grow by showing each other what we feel strongly is right, and why it is right.  That's how new inventions are made and that's how people come together and grow together.

There will always be people out there who are a horrible combination of closed-minded and self-righteous.  But guess what?  Those are the people who do nothing for anyone else and are usually forgotten.  Can you think of anyone in history who succeeded without making mistakes and admitting to them?  Every person I can think of who we all respect now, fought for beliefs that were different than everyone elses, made mistakes and admitted to them, and had the courage to keep going, failure after failure.  And inevitably, they taught everyone around them something new.  Can you do that?  Or do you want to keep doing what everyone else does, even though sometimes you feel it's not the right thing? (Granted, sometimes what everyone else is doing is actually the right thing.  This entry is not about rebelling against people unnecessarily.  It's about being a good person with a good foundation, using LOGIC.)

Here are some beliefs I have that completely don't match up with many of the people's around me.  And while I do believe, in many cases, that the people around me are wrong, I accept that people are different me, and many have their own proper reasoning for why they feel the way they do.

I don't think that highschool children should be pressured to go to college, and especially not expensive ones.
--I wasted a ton of money going to college.  I hated it, had health issues that prevented me from walking to class a lot of days, I dropped classes, and I eventually had to switch to a much more affordable community college.  It was the utterly and completely, the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life, to go to college when A) I felt so unsure of what I wanted to do, and B) I had health issues that made walking to my classes extremely unrealistic for me.  I also was pressured a lot by people important to me, that I in fact was NOT feeling as poorly as I was.  I've had to put up with, frankly, a ton of ignorance and blind-sidedness to become the strong person I am today.  What I conclude now from all of this is that college is NOT right for everyone.  All it did for me, was drain me of my finances and make my life harder.

Furthermore, I don't think you have to have a fabulous job or be making middle-class/upper-class wages to be a respectable person.
--How much money you make or your college degree is no indication of your values.  So you studied hard in school--that just means you have a good work-ethic.  And while that's a good quality to have if you are doing something you believe in (if you're working hard to do something you hate, I don't see the point), it reveals nothing of what is actually important to you.  Practically everyone in the country is telling their children to go to college--that college is success.  What actually makes you successful as a person is, you guessed it, your personal values.  What makes you happy, the love and the goodness you bring to the world, your care for your fellow man-kind, your open-mindedness, your inner-strength, your balance, your desire to prevent disagreement and bring knowledge to others...those are the REAL values, the stuff that counts.  And they're reflected not by a college education, but by what you say to other people and how you treat them and the world around you.

Case-in-point: Do we need doctors?  Yes.  100%.  But I'll always respect a doctor more when they are down-to earth and don't act holier-than-thou.  An arrogant doctor is an idiot doctor in my eyes.  Because all they did is work their asses off to get to where they are.  For all we know, a doctor could be doing their job for the money.  They aren't showing us their true values until we get to know the person within.

Further, I believe you should be frightened of arrogance.  Arrogance often-times is what creates issues like plunging into a situation because of confidence and then making mistakes because one was too confident and didn't weigh the costs of their decisions, and furthermore, arrogance often causes people to place blame on other factors, such as other people or the situation, even though the mistake was clearly made by the arrogant one themselves.  People who are arrogant have stunted-self-growth, and usually become grown up children because they believe so heartily that they are right about things, that they don't see when they are wrong.

And unfortunately for humanity, we tend to be swayed by arrogance.  When you see someone confidently endorsing something, you're more likely to grab it than someone who is shyly endorsing it.  The shy person could be the one in the right, but because the other person displayed it confidently, you might make the wrong decision based on the fact that it was confidently portrayed to you.  This is why your values are SO IMPORTANT.  Using logic, they keep your feet on the ground and they keep you from being swayed by illusion.  By being open-minded, they also help you grow.



So those are my thoughts on that.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Where I'm Going, What I'm Saying.

It's been a while since I have wrote in here!  I planned on writing a second half to that other entry, but I felt it would have been repetitive and I was uninspired by it, so I saved you guys the trouble.  This isn't a college assignment, of which I feel are energy-sucking, time-consuming, and often an uninspired way to get people to have some sort of proof that they were paying attention, using all the wrong mechanisms to show what they've learned.  Here, if I don't feel good about something, I'm dropping it.  Not wasting valuable time and energy.  And I apply that same notion to my entire life as well.

Lately, I have been making a lot of life changes and a lot of new adjustments.  A lot of decisions, and a lot of deliberation are happening this year.  It's going to be a pretty huge year for me, because I have some imperative and urgent choices to make.  I'm trying to accept the fact that I need to be -okay- with it and just handle it--because whether I like it or not, the due dates are coming.  However, I also know I am not REALLY okay with it.  I have always hated being forced into a time-limit.  I'm just trying to trick myself into not letting the stress get to me. But once it's handled, it will all be downhill from there.  It's just the question of HOW to handle it.  That's what is throwing me for a loop.  I don't even know where. to. start.  If there were a simple guidebook on all of this that was foolproof, I'd take care of it and it'd be overwith.  I feel as if any wrong turn could dramatically alter my life in a negative way.  And I'm handling it pretty well, all things considered.  So there is that (sigh of relief).

Anyway, I think my entries from now-forth will be very similar to how they have been, as I am very much the same person, and although a shy, insecure person with those I'm unfamiliar with, I'm extremely secure privately in who I am, which these blogs should absolutely reflect.  However, as I'm battling some things right now, you may also see more stuff on stress-management.  The entries may have a more personal twist because I'm not only trying to guide you, but I am also using my own logic to help myself navigate life.

And yes, to those who know me in person, and hopefully those who are reading the blog can see this as well, I'll still be the same goofy, happy-go-lucky, adventurous person.  That person who is absolutely NOT afraid to make a, "fool," of themselves or say something outlandish because some silly common norm dictates that is somehow, "wrong."  I may blush, but deep down I'm always proud of everything I do that comes across as silly or embarrassing.  Because I know that none of those things matter.  And I know what actually DOES matter.  And that's a lot more than what some person judging me by a joke I made can say.

Without values, you've got nothing.

So that is where I am right now :)  And I do plan to write in here in the future, but I am not giving you a due date.  I don't like those :)

Take care for now.